One of my biggest battles in life is controlling the words that come out of my mouth when I speak to others. After being reminded about the importance of controlling my speech from scripture and starting out to pay attention to what I say, it seems like within seconds I have already blown it. I mostly have this problem, because I don’t stop to think before I speak. I speak based on some emotion pushing me to speak. Whether it be anger, fear, silliness, know-it-allness, or activism. My words can show others my wisdom or my foolishness. Read Proverbs 12:18.
There is one who speaks rashly, like a piercing sword; but the tongue of the wise [brings] healing.
If I am taking time to stop and think before I speak, I will put others first. I will think about whether my words are really necessary or helpful. I will think about whether they put others first in their feelings and needs. I will think about whether they will bring spiritual, physical or emotional healing to their lives. This will be the wise way to speak. My emotions and needs should not dominate my speech. My care for others should dominate my speech. Above all my need to glorify God should dominate my speech. When I pray, think and engage my brain before speaking, my speech will show wisdom. Rashness of speech will usually only end up cutting someone else in the process. In Proverbs 16: 27 -28 we see that the unwise person’s speech burns up the good things in life and brings out evil in life.
27 A worthless man digs up evil, and his speech is like a scorching fire. 28 A contrary man spreads conflict, and a gossip separates friends.
More friendships have been lost by careless words of unwise friends. Businesses and churches have been destroyed by foolish words. Even what might seem like insignificant or casual speech can do harm if it is unwise. Gossip is fire out of control once it begins. I pray for God to take over my brain and tongue. May my words glorify Him and help others. May I be deemed wise by my words and glorify God.